Amanda Anderson


Amanda Anderson is a speaker, blogger and author of All My Friends Have Issues: Building Remarkable Relationships with Imperfect People (Like Me). Her ministry, Heart in Training, reaches women's ministries, conferences, mother’s groups and Twelve Step Recovery ministries throughout the country. She has spoken at the MOPS International Leadership Convention, the West Coast Life Recovery Convention, is a regular guest on New Life Live radio, and is on the speaking team at Mariners Church's Care and Recovery Ministry.


Like her book All My Friends Have Issues, her speaking messages focus on discovering freedom through authentic relationships with God and others, releasing perfectionism, and seeking spiritual self-awareness. Having overcome a decade-long struggle with anxiety and depression and worked a Twelve Step program for relationships, Amanda blends psychological research, personal experience and Biblical truth to create topics that are challenging, often hilarious and always culturally relevant.

She lives in Southern California with her husband of twenty years and her two daughters.

Here's what people are saying about Amanda!

“Amanda brings a positive spirit, laughter, and a soul-to-soul message!  Her talk at our Life Recovery Conference revealed how recovery has radically changed her life and ministry.  Amanda will encourage, inform and provoke your audience.”   
— ~Becky Brown, Director of New Life Counselor Network
In All My Friends Have Issues, Amanda Anderson becomes the friend we’ve always needed and, in the process, helps us become a better friend ...At last! No more nose pressed against the glass, looking in from the outside. The door is open! Come on in, grab a spot on the couch, and dive in.”
— Elisa Morgan, president emerita of MOPS International, cohost of Discover the Word, speaker, and author of The Prayer Coin, The Beauty of Broken, and Hello, Beauty Full
“Amanda Anderson describes the emotional and psychological foundations of healthy friendships in this captivating and often hilarious book. Offering her own experiences with warm vulnerability, she’s written an entertaining and informative book!”
— Milan and Kay Yerkovich, authors of How We Love and How We Love Our Kids
“Amanda is funny, real, deep in truth and God’s purposes, relatable and reliable...applying God’s Word in everyday reality, with the utmost care and concern and just the right amount of tears and laughter!”
— Carmela Hansberger, Pastor to Women, Mariners Church, Irvine
“Amanda has a unique gift for becoming “friends” instantaneously with the audience as she shares her heart for the Lord, her journey through motherhood, and things she’s learned through living in relationships with other people.
— Jenielle Krusiewicz, founder of Village Moms, Irvine, CA


  • All My Friends Have Issues: Building Remarkable Relationships with Imperfect People

  • All Our Leaders Have Issues: 7 Steps to Leading Authentically, Just as You Are

  • The God of The Twelve Steps

  • Rebellion and Recovery

  • What Can Anxiety and Depression Do for You?

  • A High-Performance Machine: Self Care as a Spiritual Discipline

Retreat Topics

All My People Have Issues Retreat

“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8

Session One:  God Loves Like a Mother

Not all of us are mothers, but all of us had one, and she was a defining force in our life whether she was present or absent. This session looks at this first relationship as a root of our issues, and examines how God offers us Mother-like love we need, the power to forgive the shortcomings of our earthly caregivers, and the wisdom to mother and mentor well.

Session Two: Building a Fence of Friends

How do we make and maintain friendships that are a safe haven from the world? A guide to risk-proofing authentic relationships.

Session Three: Jumping Fences in the Name of Love: A study in healthy encouragement and accountability.

How do we offer these Biblically prescribed acts of love without judgement, enmeshment, or control? How do we navigate conflict in a healthy way? How do we manage our issues before focusing on those of others?

Wholehearted  Retreat

"Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfill his promises to her!" ~Luke 1:45

We are all wired for connection with God and others, but no matter what our personal stories are, we have all struggled to love with whole hearts -- both God and others. In this generation of the church, God intends to make our hearts whole by inviting us to engage with him and other women in healthier ways, and his desire is for His family to be the most loving, healthy family the world has ever seen.

Session One: The Love We Need

Blessed are we when we have the courage to believe that God will give us the love we need if we seek it. Learning to go where the love is, not where it's "supposed to be" is key to receiving the love wants to give us. A message about forgiveness and acceptance.

Session Two: The History of Our Hearts

How our earthly families and past experiences shape our hearts and our ability to connect with others, and how what Satan intended for evil in our lives God intended for our good.

Session Three: Wholehearted Sisters

What are the ways we use "Christianese" to hurt others? How can we learn to restore gently rather than rebuke harshly? What does it mean to mourn with those who mourn? This session focuses on how to avoid typical missteps in community through creating healthy spiritual and emotional boundaries in the church.

Session Four: Hearts in Training

Action steps to strengthening our hearts and relationships.

Put Away Perfect Retreat

Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but instead be transformed into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will be able to know what God’s will is for you: his good, pleasing and perfect will. ~Romans 12:2

Session One: Perfectionist Thinking vs. Godly Thinking

While God’s perfect will for us is based on His perfect law that brings freedom (James 1:25), Perfectionism, especially “should/must" thinking, is built on the shifting sands of culture and other people’s expectations.  

Session Two: “Put Away Perfect” in Your Faith

Nowhere is perfectionism more dangerous than in our relationship with God. Revelation 12:10 calls our spiritual enemy “the accuser of our brothers and sisters, who accuses them before our God day and night.”  In this session we’ll take a look at God’s heart toward us, and examine the difference between humility and shame, conviction and condemnation.

Session Three: “Put Away Perfect” in Relationships

Perfectionism kills our relationships in two ways: It makes us hide our flaws from others, and it makes us reject people who expose their flaws to us. In this final session, we’ll talk about God’s will for us in relationships, finding freedom to love one another without having to “fix” one another, but still learning how to guard ourselves from unsafe situations.